Fearful Bride Demands Sister-In-Law Wear an Ugly Dress to the Wedding to Prevent Her From Stealing the Show

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Sienna Varady
Feb 20, 2024 8:00 AM EST

Weddings are joyous occasions. It's the bride's turn to shine and gets all she could ask for. But what happens if the bride goes overboard? Are you going to blindly obey her demands going forward, or are you going to hold your ground and call her out on her ridiculous behavior?

The story below is an account of a frustrated sister-in-law. The Original Poster (OP) tells the tale of how her sister-in-law urged that she wear an awful dress to her upcoming wedding in order to keep her from attracting attention to herself. Yes, you heard correctly. With a pre-purchased outfit in hand, the demanding sister-in-law unexpectedly showed up at OP's house and insisted that she wear it to the wedding. To make matters worse, OP is essentially a normal guest and isn't even a member of the bridal party…

So, if you want to know what happened next—that is, whether she complies with the bride's demands or defends herself—check out the story below! After you're done, don't forget to read the story about the bridesmaid who personally extends invitations to multiple guests for the bachelorette party and then insists on the bride covering the costs!

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    Well, my brother and his fiancee came over a few days after they sent the invitations because they wanted to talk to me. My FSIL basically told me she has gotten a dress for me and she'll love for me to wear it for their wedding. I was kind of like "Okay, thanks...? But why?" You know?
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    AITA for not wanting to follow my SIL's rules for her wedding and saying her insecurities aren't my fault?
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    My (f27) brother (m34) and his fiancee (f31) are getting married soon. My husband and I got our invitation, all fine However, this is the problem I am having with them. I'm not a bridesmaid/ in the bridal party because I have a baby and as she's very young (four months now) and I was either pregnant/ with a
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    newborn during most of the wedding planning it was for the best. So I'm just a regular guest as everyone else right? Well, my brother and his fiancee came over a few days after they sent the invitations because they wanted to talk to me. My FSIL basically told me she has
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    gotten a dress for me and she'll love for me to wear it for their wedding. I was kind of like "Okay, thanks...? But why?" You know? At first she didn't want to tell me why they've chosen a dress for me but finally she told me that I tend to "draw too
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    much attention to me". Last year our other brother got married and my FSIL thinks that she doesn't want to risk having me show up similarly to their wedding. Btw, I wasn't wearing an inappropriate dress or white, anything like that, I was wearing a normal formal dress.
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    I was very confused by this and I asked what she meant, because as I said I know how to dress up for a wedding. I reassured her she shouldn't worry about being "outshined" because for starters it's her wedding day and everyone will be paying attention to the bride and groom. And secondly, I won't wear an
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    inappropriate dress with like too much cleavage or something (her family is rather conservative, so I thought maybe she was more "scared" of her family's reactions") We discussed this for a while and she told me that the problem is my we she's a little overweight and I'm not
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    (always had problems gaining weight, even while pregnant) so she feels insecure and that's why she wants me to wear a dress that would cover me completely. This is where I think I might be the as ole, I told her that her insecurities were not my problem and that it was weird to ask me to wear a
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    certain dress just because I'm skinnier than her. She told me that she knew I'd have this reaction because supposedly I always want to be the focus of attention. She also said that my life has always been easier and it's not fair that I want to "steal" her wedding day as well. I asked her if she was doing this with
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    every other woman who was skinnier attending the wedding and she said no, so I told her that's a sh y move. We argued and then my husband and brother got in between us too so they argued as well and finally we kicked them out, but not before I told them to
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    enjoy their d n day because I wasn't attending the wedding, for which they accused me of being a drama queen and wanting to embarrass them by not going. Well, I'm more calm this and this has caused quite a fight in our family as
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    well. I admit that I was so tired and stressed that day because my baby had been sick all the prior day/ night. So idk, do you think I exaggerated here? Or were they truly to ask me something like this?
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    Ok_Childhood_9774 · 3 days ago ole Enthusiast [9] A NTA, and I agree with your decision not to attend the wedding. SIL can give any explanation she wants for why you are not there, but I would definitely answer honestly if anyone asked why you didn't attend.
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    literaryhogwartian 3 days ago. edited 3 days ago Nta. I have 6 sisters in law, they are stunning and tall and blonde. I am not, I'm pretty but not the models ny d ned husband has for sisters! They were all my bridesmaids in flattering dresses. I knew they would look beautiful
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    but I would shine as it was my day marrying my darling love. Sister in law needs to remember what the wedding is really about. Edit: having seen the dress i can now understand somewhat where the sister in law is coming from....
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    Consistent_Guest_146 OP. 3 days ago In my opinion, I don't think anyone can ever outshine the bride even if they try, they'll just embarrass themselves because the wedding is about the bride and groom! Everyone's attention will be on them!
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    TychaBrahe. 3 days ago Partassipant [4] If Meghan Markel can deal with having the Queen and future Queen at her wedding, your SIL can deal with having you there.
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    No-Introduction3808. 3 days ago *future queen consort Also fun fact the queen wore white to Camilla's reception, supposedly because Camilla wore dove gray (basically white) to Diana's
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    sjw_7. 3 days ago Professor Emeritass [72] ΝΤΑ If the situation had been reversed and you had been asking her to wear something specific because of her weight you would have been accused of fat shaming. It was very of them to ask what they did.
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    I could understand if you had a habit of turning up to these kind of events in a bikini but you don't. You do dress appropriately so its all down to her jealousy is all.
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    Consistent_Guest_146 OP 3 days ago It's just that it would've never crossed my mind to ask something like this, I get it for bridesmaids because many times when you're one you wear an ugly dress the bride chooses, but just a regular guest?
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    seregil42. 3 days ago Professor Emeritass [76] This makes no sense. If this were about her insecurities about her weight, she'd ask everyone one else to do the same as she's doing to you. I don't feel like we're getting the full picture here.
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    YouthNAsia63 · 3 days ago Prime Ministurd [489] There was a free dress? Hmmmmm. You might be able to outshine the, (in her own mind -frumpy bride), even in a full coverage dress? You might have taken a look at it before you turned it down. Unless it's got a hood and a face mask, some professional makeup
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    and hairstyling can go a loooong way toward making you look amazing, even in an ugly dress. I might be pretty enough to do it-just to f k her over. Because I'm that way. But I totally get it-W F. The bride
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    should take the win-now you aren't even gonna go, and she can be the focus of every eye. And nobody will be wondering where you are, (I bet they will, though). NTA
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    Consistent_Guest_146 OP 3 days ago You might have taken a look at it before you turned it down. She actually had the dress since she was intending for me to try it on, it is very ugly, not my style at all. It's life something queen Elizabeth would wear
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    AforAuPair 3 days ago Partassipant [2] I may be reading waaay to much into this but I think there is something else going on. Any chance she is pregnant? NTA for not wearing/wanting the dress.
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    Consistent_Guest_146 OP 3 days ago I don't know, it could be, but I still don't get it? If she were pregnant and they are planning to announce it during the ceremony then there's no way anyone can steal the attention, so I think it makes even less sense
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